Difficult Conversations: How to Talk to Your Family About Weight Loss

It’s never easy having difficult conversations, especially when it’s with your family members about something very personal to you, such as your health or weight. You should never feel ashamed talking about how to better yourself, but that doesn’t mean it’s an easy task to undertake.

Whether you’ve already attended one of our free informational classes, already scheduled your surgery, or just thinking about learning more about one of our weight loss programs, it’s essential you talk with your family. They will be your biggest advocates and support through the process.

How do you begin this difficult conversation? Ask them to a family meeting or set aside some time on the calendar when everyone is home and can focus.

When you’re together, tell them you’d like to talk with them about weight loss programs, but first you’d like to get their point of view.

Here are some tips on how to have this conversation:

1. Open the table to let your family members ask you questions first. This shows that you truly care about their feelings and want to listen before speaking. While this is your decision, it’s important to involve your family. Many of their questions may be items you want to discuss anyways.
2. Remind them that this is for your future health. The reason you’ve either considered or made this decision is to live a longer, healthier life and to be around for theirs.
3. Make sure they understand that this would be a lifestyle change, not a quick fix. Things will change around the house, before and after the surgery, or during the program, especially regarding food and exercise. Let them know what those things are so they can be supportive and participate as well. They will see the benefits of healthier meals and exercise along with you.
4. Hold yourself accountable to your past and why you may be in this position, but tell them your goals for the future and how important it is for them to be a part of that success through their support.
5. Keep them posted about your visits and the things you’re working on changing. They can’t help you if you don’t communicate with them and share your struggles and successes.
6. Start with the end in mind. How do you want the conversation to go and end? What do you want to get out of it? Make sure you keep this in mind throughout the conversation to keep it on track and to ensure you’re getting everything out that you want.

Remember, your health is the most important, so while it may be uncomfortable, remember why you are making this decision and stay strong. One of the best ways to help your family members understand is to invite them to come to a free informational session with you so they can hear from our staff about the benefits of weight loss and the health risks of not making a change.